Getting An Understanding
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By Michelle Thompson in About an Adoption Published: Thursday, 14 June 07 - 12:39 PM (GMT) Last Updated: Thursday, 14 June 07 - 12:49 PM (GMT) |
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Whilst we await another contact from our social worker, I've been trying to get a better understanding of what problems (in business-speak - opportunities) we might encounter when lucky enough to be matched with a child (yes - I know this is a dream of the future, but our social worker kept telling us we should be on adoption boards and forums and things).
I picked up a copy of mychild magazine last weekend, not normally something I read. But coincidentally, this edition has an article on Fostering within GB. There are 10,000 foster carers short in the U.K, and May had a Foster Care Fortnight. These are the people who will be looking after our child before matched with us, and extremely important to me.
The article suggests how important, and difficult it is, to establish trust with these looked after children, and even when just acting as a normal mum and dad, the NSPCC states that 21% of children in care still don't feel safe anyway - because they are not always familiar with living in a normal safe family environment in the first place.
Here's a quote from the article itself (written by Ross Watson) -
They are not always familiar with watching you partake in a couple of civilized drinks on a Sunday without it turning into a boozy session; nor are they always familiar with an arm being put around their shoulders out of love and nothing more.
Which brought home to me again, the differences in adoption here, and how many changes I will need to make to my own parenting skills and style if successful in this.
But oh - how I want it anyway.
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| about adoption | manekineko | 06/16/07 |
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Top | Reply to this Title: about adoption Author: manekineko (http://www.mailart.org) Date Posted: 16 Jun 2007 11:52 PM (GMT) We recently adopted our daughter out of China. During the process, we were told all kinds of things, like how bad orphanages are over there, the risk of an adopted child not bonding correctly, etc. We got over there and it was nothing like they told us. The orphanage was well maintained, the caregivers there were very loving and careful with the children, and my little girl is doing just fine - a normal 2 year old as far as I can tell. All this is just to say that these magazines are ok but if possible talk with people who have done it before, in person. It's not so scary ;) |
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